Oh, bring back the days of old
school love. You know, when dudes went above and beyond to express their
interest in a woman and make their intentions known. The days when women didn’t
have to try and decode if a guy liked them because it was CRYSTAL clear. The
days when a man wooed a woman in the true sense of the word. The days when men
thrived on shakara* and saw it as a welcomed challenge (LOL).
I don’t know about y’all ladies, but
I do miss that old school kind of love and guys of today don’t do nearly as
much as men used to back in the day. Just ask any older man how they wooed
women back in the day and you might be shocked. So my question is what has
changed and why??? You would actually think that with the advancements made
with technology, perhaps men would get more creative in their pursuit but it
seems quite the contrary- men seem not to be making too much of an effort. Ok,
lemme pause for a second and explain that this is not a bashing session. Men,
y’all know I don’t bash but the truth must be told and I simply want to get to
the bottom of this. After all, I've asked some guys and many said they're not
strong believers in 'The Chase". So, I wanna give y’all an opportunity to
explain. Guys, have you changed and given up on the old-school kind of pursuit
for one or all of the following reasons?:
a) You are much more sensitive and not as rugged as men back in
the day and don’t want your feelings hurt so you play REALLY safe?
b) There are so many women to pick from who are easily
available without much of a chase so when one starts to do too much shakara,
you feel like “ain’t nobody got time for that”? Lol.
c) You feel like since women are so independent these days,
they don’t deserve to be wooed and impressed because after all, they don’t act
like they need you?
d) You tried to impress way too many girls and go treated badly
so you really can’t be bothered anymore.
e) All of the above (Lol)
Yes, we have established that women
of nowadays work, make good money, and can generally buy what they want, which
quite frankly is a good thing for the guys cos it means she wouldn’t be a
liability but an ally. But that shouldn’t stop you from wanting to make her
feel extra special. It shouldn’t stop you from wanting to make her feel like
you did the work to get her. You would agree with me on that, right?
Women nowadays are pretty simple. When I asked the ladies how you (men) should show your interest in them, they had
two main responses: call on the phone and want to spend time together. That’s
certainly NOT a lot to ask but one would expect guys to take it up a notch,
make it special, and be creative about it. Some guys know how to do this well
but it seems many don’t so I’m looking for an explanation to help the sistas
understand better. Remember what I said earlier: Many guys have told me that
they are not all for the chase anymore. So I wanna know exactly why.
So men, what’s the deal. What would
your answer be between “a and e” above? Why is new-school love so different
from old-school love? Please share how you feel about this.
*Playing hard to get.
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