Build Self Confidence and Be a Success

By George McnaneyCo-Author: Jan McNaney

So you want to build self confidence?

Your level of self confidence is often a measure of what has happened in your past. It can be boosted by your successes, and eroded if you feel that you have failed at something. Your self confidence can grow when you are praised, and fall when you are mocked.

If you have high self confidence, you will be less affected by criticism, and you will accept yourself for who you are, and not care what other people think. Self confidence is an inner belief in your own value as a person, and often these values are set during your informative years.

Because of that, not everyone is fortunate enough to make the transition from childhood to adulthood with high self esteem, and buckets full of confidence, but there are many ways in which you can build self confidence.

Think of something, that up till now, you've wanted to try but haven't. It may be joining a painting class, starting a college course, or trying paragliding. Don't think about it, just do it. Whatever it is, give it 100% and don't give up at the first obstacle. Participating in things that challenge you will automatically start to build self confidence within you, so why not give it a try now?

Maybe you're worried about failure?

The self confident person treats any failure as a valuable lesson. He analyses the reasons for the failure, takes that knowledge, and uses it to avoid making the same mistakes again. He turns a failure into an asset. So, if you make a mistake, think of it as a positive lesson learnt, and never make the same mistake again. Don't give up. You're self confidence will rapidly start to grow.

What will other people think if you make a mistake?

Try not to concern yourself as to what people think of you. Sometimes people can't handle their own insecurities, and they need to bring others down, in order to feel better about themselves. Tell yourself, it's their problem. Which it most definitely is. Once you stop worrying what people think of you, you will begin to build self confidence quickly.

One tip that really works is to imagine you're an actor playing the role of a self confident and successful person. Act this way when you go to the shops, the cinema, etc. It won't take long to adjust to playing this role, and soon you will behave like this naturally and automatically. You'll find your self confidence growing day by day.

In the words of Thomas Edison, "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."

Are you going to give up, or build self confidence and be a success?

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Unshakable Mirage

Unshakable Mirage

by Segun Fanoiki 

Fleeing to the proximate exit

Racing, panting and gasping for respite

A pliable visionary

Searching for solaced rest

Then the melodious soprano broke free

Locked lips could restrain them not

Lib rings out

Behind the veil of twilight

Slipping into the solo war

As dense thoughts

Are disrobed in the nightfall sated with darkness

So beauteous with a dainty veneer

Psyched about glamour but sullen

Tranquility oozed out akin to quiet seas

The charade matched in parade as I stood amazed

Then her chuckles; reached me yonder

Beyond the pristine confusion

Riding on propellers

 A shadow of an enchanting embrace

Reserved for the bearer in the race

Buoyed above, I arose

Charging to victory with a piercing desire

To unburden her from herself!

Yoo-hoo, I muttered

Reminiscent of our first glance

With hindsight

My pretend acquaintance

With the onus of propriety

Scurrying the maze

Real and surreal clashed

Unconscious still,

I dart beyond the pangs

Seething beneath us

‘Till the frail trail

Fades in the distant aeon

Tis morning                                                                                                                                                 

I declare boldly shrouded by the stealth of a smiley

Like the heart wooing the mind

My endearments

Mine would be yours but for the first stance.

Today, the hanging sunbeam

Dole out clout it would seem

But alas my lass

I so pale not bane

Floating on bubbles 

Combustible in bursting ardour

Weightless, timeless and boundless

The bridge to our ecstasy

A sweet journey of discovery

Flourishing forever idyllically

My illusionary vision

Minuscule, yet transcendental

With your incessant nudge

On the outskirts of my hallucination

Elusive yet pervasive

Yield not yourself to this banality

Ditch this soporific

His slumber echoes,

With wordless love

Mouthing fickle syllables

Soaked in cringe

And adorned with a sense of quaintness

In your wake

My mirage stays awake

This battle is endless!

© Segun Fanoiki

A little insight on domestic violence and abuse

Divorce parties !!!!

The rate at which marriages collapse now is assuming a social symbol status in our society. In no- time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends and well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries, they will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians & what have you. Even a question like "So when are u getting divorced?" will become commonplace. If u know u can't handle the weight & pressures of marriage, please remain single. If u don't know what marriage is all about, please remain single until u do. If u are getting married because of the things u desire or hope to gain from the other person please remain single. If u know u can't be faithful, remain single. If u can't endure insults from one another, pls remain single. If u can't forgive one another's wrongs, pls remain single. If u can't place your spouse above every other human being, pls remain single! Don't get married out of desperation."All my friends a

re getting married" is d most foolish reason to get married! If u desire a successful home, but ur choice of friends are forces not to reckon with, think again. Be very mindful of where you go for advices, Many would give, but not many mean well! Guys, if u know u can't put ur wife ahead your ego, pls remain single till u're mature. your woman is your priority and EVERYTHING else including u comes last. You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard,the role model - u are not a deity or God. So do not expect to be worshiped. You need respect, earn it by being responsible! Ladies, if u know you can't be submissive please don't go into marriage so you're not turned to a punch bag! If u know u can't stand being corrected, please remain single. Mr/Mrs I know it all!!! **Stolen!!!

Derinola TooTek EmmaQulate Segbeji

REFLECTING ON NIGERIA @ 52

REFLECTING ON  NIGERIA @ 52

We can choose to lament about Nigeria or roll up our sleeves and get to work. At a TV programmed I participated in a couple of years ago; I told Agatha’s audience that ‘’We are the change we seek’’ because the problem facing Nigerians is a collective problem that requires a collective solution, the two major problems that has forever held Nigerians captives is that of corruptions and leadership and the two have human beings at the core of its operations and it also requires human beings to solve them. You and I are Nigeria’s problems and you and I too must become it solutions.

 No doubt the government has a critical, crucial and paramount role to play in ensuring that we have a nation that is working in terms of infrastructure and all but the bane of the Nigerians problem is not the nation Nigerian but its people. Yes you and I are the ones that must shape up and imbibe new and better moral values that will help to rebuild our fatherland.

We must imbibe the spirit of excellence, hard work, integrity and order. At the moment we have a lot of apathy, despair and even despondency to set out of the way before we begin to see the trees from the fog.

We are blessed by God Almighty with an incredible nation. We are blessed with our demographics, geography and even our economics and we are no doubt destined for greatness and its clear deals we will get to our Eldorado in serve couple of years if we the citizenry decide to become the change we seek.

 For years now we have allowed decadence and despair to rule our body polity, its turn to shake off the beast and begin to resolve to build a better and greater Nigeria. It’s possible, its achievable and its expedient even more so at this time we cannot continue to crawl when we ought to soar and we cannot continue to borrow when we ought to lending.

We have all we need to succeed, we have it all in great abundance, is it the weather, the resources, both human and material or the typography, everything is in great abundance, Nigerians as a people are the greatest achievers anywhere the find themselves when they choose to be good.

Let’s convert all our energy to rebuilding our nation let imbibe what I will call the “7 principles of TRANSFORMATION”!

1. Confront the problem
2. Constructively set out to change the situation
3. Commit to the change process.
4. Compare all the possible solutions to the problem
5. Combat the problem head long.
6. Continue till the very end until you bring about possible positive changes.
7. Celebrate your victories and continue in the process of continual change, working continually until you achieve permanent good concerning the situation in this case our nation.

Let us all wake up and realize that we all can contribute whenever we find ourselves. If we all signup to the good of Nigeria everywhere we find ourselves within the Nigerian state than we would be on the road to emancipation as a nation.

Let’s continue to pray for the leadership until we have another chance at making our voices count the ballot all of until then all we can do is PRAY and on our own part, roll up our sleeves and begin the arduous task of nation rebuilding.

We have mega stars scattered all over Nigeria lets all use our big positrons to make changes we deserve and soon the leadership will catch up.

 Happy independence Nigerians everywhere, God bless our father land, God bless our president Goodluck Ebelle Jonathan.

Copyright @ VICTORIA PRAISE ABRAHAM. October 1, 2012